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He married at 23 and later served as the pastor of an evangelical megachurch in Maryland for more than a decade.Over the years he wrote more books about dating and marriage, including , he is the father of three kids—two of them teenagers—and he is pursuing formal education for the first time in his life.He shared scary and supposedly true stories like Ben and Lisa’s: Christians who dated seriously, had sex, eventually broke up, and years later still “expressed emotional trauma and guilt.” .He was a virgin who had been home-schooled his whole life—an unusual profile for the author of a book proposing “a new attitude toward romance and relationships,” as the subtitle put it.For me as a teenager, the whole topic had a pleasing ratio of certainty to ambiguity.The foundational “fact” of purity culture was that having intercourse before marriage was wrong.In the fall, he hopes to embark on an independent study in which he’ll read about the religious culture that informed him as a young man.“I want to do more than just say, ‘Oh, I should have said a few things differently,’ ” he said.
As for everything short of intercourse, I spent hours with my youth-group friends applying Talmudic analysis to the question “How far is too far?
A bride is walking down the aisle toward her beloved on their wedding day.
Stained glass, string quartet: Everything is perfect.
It’s what I’m known for,” Harris told me recently from Vancouver, British Columbia, where he moved his family last year to enroll in a graduate program at evangelical Regent College.
“It’s like, well, crap, is the biggest thing I’ve done in my life this really huge mistake? Last month he gave an interview to NPR in which he said he is re-evaluating the book’s impact, and he has been responding to critics on Twitter and having phone conversations with some of them, too.