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But male bottoming should not be considered kinky, and women penetrating men should not be considered kinky. One last reason why every man should try being penetrated: It feels incredible. For both parties involved, but especially for the male bottom. With prostate stimulation, you get to experience full body orgasms.
Here’s an apt comparison: Men, remember when you discovered masturbating and you thought, “How could this get any better? They’re more intense and no longer localized to your genitals. There’s no reason why only gay and bisexual men should get to experience all the good stuff.
Every man you meet will fall somewhere on this spectrum of the coming-out process, and it will be important for you to assess this dimension to ensure his level of development and self-acceptance matches your needs for a partner.
You, as an out man, will likely be positioned in Stages 5 or 6.
That’s undoubtedly fun and pleasurable, but also just one type of sex that can happen while bottoming. Check out our new podcast, Honestly though, which answers the questions you're afraid to ask, and find more on our Soundcloud page.
Since bottoming for men (with a woman) is taboo, when it does occur, it makes sense that it might often be in a kink fashion. Sex can get better, and your prostate is the key — a gift from the gods.
Read on and reach your own conclusions as you evaluate the pros and cons of this prickly predicament.
In a dating world where it can seem impossible to find a compatible match, should you be picky in this particular regard?You’re going to smile, laugh it off, and still want to be with me. I honestly believe that if more men were penetrated, they would stop being such aggressive little punks about having sex so damn soon.I know that’s a generalization, and I know that there are a myriad of other societal factors that contribute to the tired trope of “Men always wanting sex and woman always resisting,” but I think the lack of empathy, coming from a place of never having been penetrated, is a contributing factor. There’s also the other side to why men should be penetrated that’s often overlooked: All women should have the chance to experience being the penetrator.Women have described it to me as a surge of power and dominance; something that they might seldom get to experience during sex.When women do want to penetrate me, it’s very much in a context of BDSM — but I don’t think it has to be. Excuse my vulgarity, but when I bottom for a woman, we’re never making love — I’m just getting f*cked. Want more of Bustle's Sex and Relationships coverage?