It’s black and white – you’re either dating or you’re exclusive.
Maybe he was too desperate, not intellectually stimulating, too quiet, too loud, too boring, too boisterous–she usually knows exactly what it is that turned her off and can give a reason as to why she doesn’t want to continue dating him if asked.
After a few great dates with a seemingly great guy, most women can’t help but get excited about the possibilities.
They think of where the relationship might go and they start to invest in a fantasy future.
Early on in my marriage, when things weren’t going well between my husband and me, I tried everything I could think of to fix it. I would think about our problems and what he wanted almost non-stop. When I stepped back and stopped trying and doing, and just relaxed into my own skin, things completely turned around.
I made him the center of my world because I felt so desperate to make it work, but all it did was to push him away even further. I dated myself by doing things that honored what I needed, and his feelings changed for me overnight.