Dating customs in paris
I have a friend who, after having been on a couple dates with a French guy, stumbled across something marked on his calendar a month to the day after they had shared their first kiss saying it was their would-be ‘1 month anniversary’ on that day.
Since she’d only known him for two weeks, she was naturally quite alarmed at how far they’d already progressed as a couple in his mind.
She soon came to realise, though, that this was oh-so-normal en France.
When dating in any new culture that you’re not familiar with, it can understandably be daunting, especially if you’re speaking in a language that’s not your mother tongue.
So, after another evening spent together where he cooked me a three-course meal in his apartment and still hadn’t made a move, I decided the next day to finally declare my feelings for him in a text, (because my little heart just couldn’t handle face-toface rejection).
‘Je t’aime bien’ I finally pressed ‘send’ after deliberating for longer than I’d care to admit. Yes, if he’d pulled out my heart with his bare hands I don’t think it would have been more painful than to read those words.
It is natural (in France), for a woman to be completely honest and tell the man she wants to see him again.What about the rules of letting the man be the one to text you first? You can forget everything you’ve learned when you date a French guy, it’s a level playing field!As well as having to be more decisive about where you want to go on a date, it’s pretty important that a woman does aide the man in doing some of the follow up work after the date.I suggest leaving the grand declaration of ‘Je t’aime’ for the man.He will say it sooner than you think, since he probably already knows his true feelings for you after the first date.
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After summoning my friends to a crisis coffee meeting, where I had to tell them about what had just happened to me, my friends explained I had, in fact, told him that I liked him a lot – but as a friend.