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”Pat asked me: “Are you a career man or a man with a career?
” (This is one of those aphorisms.) I told her that my career was not just a job, but kind of a calling. She told me that, as a career man, since my job would come first, I could get married and be perfectly content, but I’d always be longing for more. Allen’s contention, essentially, was that if you’re an alpha male, your natural tendency is to put your needs first, to conquer, to dominate, to spread your seed, and to hope to not break too many hearts along the way. And in this regard, I realized, I’m not a pure alpha male.
I also read on Huffington a hilariously titled article (in response to the Anthony Weiner scandal), “Should Women Go Ugly?
” again, suggesting that women should steer clear of handsome alpha types who are quite likely to ultimately let them down. If the conventional wisdom is for women to avoid relationships with them, is it in their (the alpha guys) best interest to skip the so-called American dream, avoid marriage and children and just bounce from one short-term relationship to another?
And if so, what type of woman would be able to create a happy life with a man like this?So, to bring this back to you, Sara, my thoughts on alpha males is that while they may remain the most attractive candidates out there, as a rule, they tend to be bad long-term relationship bets. They may try to spend money on you but it doesn’t compensate for their lack of attention, affection and understanding. But you hold on because he’s such an intoxicating catch.I would guess that most women who’ve gone for them would concur with this observation. Make no mistake, he RELIES on his charms to allow you put up with all his bullshit.So it’s not that it’s impossible to find one of these guys who wants to settle down with you — it’s that alpha males are inherently high risk/high reward.And, from what I’ve seen as a dating coach, most women are willing to take the risk — but very few actually get the long-term reward.